Friday, April 24, 2009

I'm So excited!! Just received the "Girlfriend Factor" Scholarship

WOW--what an honor...Out of tons of applicants, only 6 of us were newly awarded this scholarship--which will at least help pay for the books and supplies. They had an award luncheon at Ruth's Chris. There were at least 100 people there.. A little intimidating at first, but I had no problem getting up to "tell my story" and let them know how honored I felt to be selected to be a Coachella Valley "Girlfriend". Check out their web page.. Soon my picture and story will be there under "recipients". http://www.thegirlfriendfactor.org/.

I applied for about 10 other scholarships! I hope I will be just as lucky, but there are lots more competition in the others, especially, the COD scholarship.

I never, ever thought I would even attempt to apply. The process is tedious and most of them require that you write an essay about yourself, etc. Well, props to Murphy--ever since I've been going to his class, my fear of writing has diminished and I find it easier and easier each time--when the topic is about something I can relate to or have had personal experience with.

If you haven't tried it--give it a shot. What have you got to loose? Nothing--but if you don't even try, then you do loose out.

Good night for now--see you all tomorrow!

Finally-the definition essay is finished!

Debbie Suer
Joel Murphy
English 51
25 April 2009

County Adoption

The word adoption is not in the mainstream families’ dialogue, but for a small percentage, the word means the world to them. Adoption is having the parental rights of a child’s biological birth parent(s) permanently and legally transferred to the adoptive parent(s) (Department of Public Social Services 4). It is a most rewarding, yet challenging concept that takes an enormous amount of time, patience, diligence, open-mindedness, humility and most of all, commitment. Once you finally come to that painstaking decision to parent someone else’s biological child as your own, there is no turning back.

There are other aspects of parentless children, for example, foster care and group homes. They are not, however, a permanent solution for these children. Many of these children are removed from their homes due to neglect or abuse. Their worlds have been shattered. Fortunately, some group homes take in these children, where they do their best to accommodate the children’s needs, offer hope, guidance and healing from the scars of mistrust and abandonment. They are usually between the ages of six to twelve and go to school during the day. They have access to counseling and medical management, if needed (Father’s Heart Ranch). Unfortunately, sometimes these victims get lost in the system. Many of them fall into the same patterns they grew up observing from their parents, and have considerable trouble with drugs, violence and crime. Even though individual foster homes as well as group homes do all they can to prevent violent or malevolent behavior, once these children are put into the system, they tend to follow a very bumpy road.

The people who will be the guides, educators and professionals that you deal with when attempting to adopt a child, are going to be Riverside County Department of Public Social Services (DPSS) social workers who specialize in teaching the adoptive parent how to parent. (Department of Public Social Services 3). A very lengthy process must be carried out before you are given a foster/adoptive license. Fingerprinting, criminal background checks, child abuse index clearing, self-autobiographies including home study evaluations, and home safety inspection, budget information, health screening, CPR/first aid certification, letters of recommendation, emergency disaster plan and fire inspection in addition to 3 months of extensive classroom training (Community Care Licensing).

Child Protective Services (CPS), also a division of DPSS, takes on the role of removing children from unsafe and unhealthy situations. Those children are then placed in temporary foster homes or group homes until a more permanent solution is decided for them. All too often, only the babies, toddlers and pre-school age children find permanent homes. Other specialized social workers within DPSS assist in the actual matching and placement of a child from the foster system to the adoptive parents. (Department of Public Social Services 1)

Adoption was a scary word for me to comprehend at one point in my life. Over the last eight years, I have concluded that being an adoptive parent is the most rewarding life experience ever. I cannot even begin to explain the feeling I get when my children come up to me and call me “Mommy”. I have saved them from what would have otherwise been a life of “hell”. I believe that every parent should have to go through the same kind of parenting courses before they give birth to a child. I’m not saying that they must get a license (as the adoptive parents need to get), but that they go through at least half of the scrutiny that adoptive parents go through, so maybe there would not be so many children “in the system” in the first place.
The adoptive social workers do an amazing job in so far as being the guides for which adoptive parents need to rely on. They are there to assist, teach, and even do the final placement of a child into your home. The CPS social worker, at the other end of the spectrum, has a very difficult job. Taking a child out of his/her home due to violence, abuse or neglect, or away from his/her mother in the hospital because the child was born addicted to a drug(s), for instance, is heart wrenching. The social workers and I do have the same interests as far as making sure that all little souls deserve the very best care, love and devotion they need to thrive and grow into healthy productive human beings.

I happened to be extremely lucky with the experience of adopting through the county. My husband and I were able to adopt both of our children, who happen to be blood siblings, before they were 4 months old. This gave them the benefit of having a secure and nurturing environment as infants. They were spared from being stuck in the foster/group home system. I believe my desires are being met day by day and year by year. It has been over ten years since I began my journey and just yesterday my daughter came home from school with a flyer inviting parents to attend a 15 hour – ten session Parent Education Course presented by Catholic Charities San Bernadino/Riverside (Cooperative Parenting). Therefore, little by little, I believe our society is finally starting to head in the right direction - by teaching our parents how to parent.

Works Cited
Department of Public Social Services. 2006. 26 March 2009
<http://dpss.co.riverside.ca.us/ChildProtectiveServices.aspx>.
Catholic Charities San Bernadino/Riverside, 2009. Cooperative Parenting.
Father’s Heart Ranch. 2007. 21 April 2009
< http://www.fathersheartranch.com/>
State of California Department of Social Services Community Care Licensing Division.
Foster Family Home Orientation. Riverside, 1998.

Friday, April 3, 2009

Definition Essay 1st draft

Debbie Suer
Joel Murphy
English 51
18 April 2009

Adoption

The word adoption is not in the mainstream families’ dialogue, but for a small percentage, the word means the world to them. Adoption is having the parental rights of a child’s biological birth parent(s) permanently and legally transferred to the adoptive parent(s). It is a most rewarding, yet challenging concept that takes an enormous amount of time, patience, diligence, open-mindedness, humility and most of all commitment. Once you finally come to that painstaking decision to parent someone else’s biological child as your own, there is no turning back.

There are other aspects of parentless children, for example, foster care and group homes. They are not, however, a permanent solution for these children. Unfortunately, sometimes these deprived victims get “lost” in the system. There is also private adoption, but those guidelines and procedures go down an entirely different path. The people who will be the guides, educators and professionals that you deal with when attempting to adopt a child, are going to be; Riverside County Department of Public Social Services (dpss.cps.adoption.3) social workers who specialize in teaching the adoptive parent how to parent. Child Protective Services, also a division of DPSS, play the role of removing children from unsafe and unhealthy situations. There are also specialized social workers who assist in the actual matching and placement of a child from the foster system to the adoptive parents. (dpss.cps.1)

Adoption was a scary word for me to comprehend at one point in my life. Over the last seven years, I have concluded that being an adoptive parent is the most rewarding life experience ever. I cannot even begin to explain the feeling I get when my children come up to me and call me “Mommy”. I have saved them from what would have otherwise been a life of “hell”. I believe that every parent should have to go through the same kind of parenting courses before they give birth to a child. I’m not saying that they must get a license (as the adoptive parents need to get), but that they go through at least half of the scrutiny that adoptive parents go through, so maybe there would not be so many children “in the system” in the first place.

The social workers do an amazing job in so far as being the guides for which adoptive parents need to rely on. They are needed in our society on many levels. The child protective services social worker, at the other end of the spectrum, has a very difficult job. Taking a child out of his/her home due to violence, abuse or neglect, or away from his/her mother in the hospital because the child was born addicted to a drug, for instance, is heart wrenching. The social workers and I do have the same interests as far as making sure that all little souls deserve the very best care, love and devotion they need to thrive and grow into healthy productive human beings.

I happened to be extremely lucky with the experience of adopting through the county as opposed to a private/open adoption. I believe my desires are being met day by day and year by year. It has been over seven years since I began my journey and just yesterday my daughter came home from school with a flyer inviting parents to attend a 15 hour – ten session Parent Education Course presented by RCDPSS (Cooperative Parenting). Therefore, little by little, I believe our society is finally starting to head in the right direction by “teaching” our parents how to parent.

Works sited
http://dpss.co.riverside.ca.us/ChildProtectiveServices.aspx
Cooperative Parenting. Catholic Charities San Bernadino/Riverside

Mid-term questions

Debbie Suer
Joel Murphy
English 51
28 March 2009


#1 Descriptive essay – what do you need to do in this type (2-3 sentences)
To write a descriptive essay, you first need to grab the readers attention in your
introduction with either a quote, question or statement. The first paragraph needs to end with the thesis statement stating what you are describing. Define your subject matter by having a paragraph mentioning what it has to do with each of the five senses. The conclusion should go beyond the subject.

#2 Process essay. Into-how many steps, body – go through the steps, conc – now you can…..
How many times have you thrown away that soda can or milk carton in the trash without ever giving it a second thought? Well, let me tell you in just three easy steps how you can turn that unwanted trash into dollars to put in your pocket instead. Recycling is big business in these tough economic times. Let it work for you.
First, gather up a few containers or plastic bags. One can be for cans, another for glass and a third for plastic. Then, start in your own home by gathering up and make a commitment to yourself to set these items aside in their proper containers. Last, when these are full to capacity, bring them to your local recycling facility and cash them in.
You will be surprised how fast this money adds up. Maybe you can set aside a special “piggy bank” and watch it grow. When you feel confident enough with how your own systems works, branch out into your community and watch how fast your efforts begin to pay off big time. Involve your children, if you can. Maybe one day you might even own your own recycling facility.

Thursday, March 26, 2009

Mid term jitters

Midterm - 3 questions

1 Descriptive Eassay in 2-3 sentences (1 point)
What do you need to do in this type?
2. Process Essay
3 paragraphs (3 points)
a. intro
b. body (go through the steps)
c. conclusion - what you can now do...go beyond
3. Definition essay - Extended Outline (6 Points)
I. Introdutcion
concept in 1-2 sentences
II. Contrast/Negation
what the concept is not in 2-3 sentences
III. Experts (minimum 2)
3+ sentences for each/cite them
IV. Author's opinion
what you think the concept is and why
V. Fuse III & IV together
best of each in 3-8 sentences
VI Conclusion
2-3 sentences

BRING IN SOURCES - print out

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Final Draft-Process Essay "Exonerated"

Debbie Suer
Joel Murphy
English 51
14 March 2009
Exonerated
Have you ever been pulled over by a motorcycle police officer? Did he write out your speeding ticket and just drive away, leaving you with a feeling of embarrassment, shame, anger and bewilderment? One particular experience I had has changed my attitude. I can tell you all about how to contest a traffic ticket, win and even get your money back.

First, try to look very sad when the officer pulls you over. Do not get angry. Do everything he asks in a very cooperative manner. Show remorse, sadness and the willingness to comply, ant at this point, you can even start to shed a tear or two. If you are lucky, the officer will give a little hint (as he did in my case). He told me not to worry and that everything will be fine. Just read the back of the ticket very carefully and do everything it says to do about requesting a trial by declaration. “Vehicle Code section 40902 allows a defendant to contest a citation in writing without having to make a personal court appearance.” This procedure is called a “trial by written declaration”.

Next, a letter must be written to the court in reference to your citation number stating that you are contesting the violation by way of requesting a trial by written declaration. An important statement that needs to make in this letter is that if the judge feels it necessary to find you guilty, you want to request the right to attend traffic school. Physically bring this letter to the county clerk and pay the fine. The clerk, at that point, will give you the necessary paperwork to contest the ticket.

Once you have that form, fill it out completely, sign it and attach your written statement of what exactly happened along with any descriptive photographs or diagrams you want to include as evidence. For example, the speed limit sign (if one was posted), weather conditions, street grading (if there was a hill), and if there were any cars in front or behind you. These factors can help your case to prove there was reasonable doubt. Your written statement must include the following legal language, “I declare under penalty of perjury that this statement is true and correct.” Each written statement and proof of evidence must be signed and dated (these statements are called “declarations”).

One last trip to the courthouse is necessary. After the clerk receives the declaration, the clerk will notify the officer who issued the citation. The officer will be given the opportunity to submit his declaration regarding the citation, by a specific date. Now you wait with anticipation and hope that the officer will not respond in time, or at all. Once that date has passed, the court will notify you by mail of its decision.

Experience has shown that most motorcycle police officers do not take the time to do all the above necessary steps. As time passes, the Judge will most likely rule in your favor. This process will take some time, patience and diligence on your part, but your efforts may pay
off in the end, as it did in my case. Once that long awaited envelope comes in the mail, carefully open it and you might just be as surprised, as I was, by finding a refund check and the words “Exoneration $167.40. One (1) count dismissed in the interest of justice. Infraction hearing concluded. Hearing disposed. Defendant released.”

This gave me such a feeling of exuberance and pure satisfaction indicating that my hard work and perseverance paid off. So, if a motorcycle police officer ever pulls you over for a speeding ticket, try not to overreact and maybe you too can beat the system by being very careful and reading everything on the back of the ticket. Then do whatever is in your power to try to contest the citation without ever appearing in court - as I did.

Friday, March 6, 2009

Facebook is a Kick!

I just started on Facebook and feel like a KID again! I have connected with almost 20 of my old friends from back home, Seaford (Island Trees High School, Levittown, NY) My next door neighbor & I grew up in the playpen together all the way through high school-we lost touch for a few years, but have been in contact and visit each other whenever we travel cross country. It's all the others that are amazing me!! About 5 kids from the street I grew up on to kids I went to Kindergarden with. It is so much fun being able to be in instant touch at the push of a key! I am just sorry that we didn't have this kind of technology sooner. It's almost 37 years since I graduated high school (OOPS-giving away my age) but that is not even relavent. You are as old as you feel. Having 2 young children (4 & 7) and now FACEBOOK--I just feel like a kid all over again! Everyday I am getting more and more requests to ""confirm ...as a friend".